In the world of divorce litigation, it's not uncommon to witness couples arguing over trivial matters that hold little to no significance in the grand scheme of things. These disputes often stem from emotional turmoil and a desire to hurt the other person rather than rationally evaluating what truly matters. Holly J. Moore, a renowned divorce attorney and owner of Moore Family Law Group, has an interesting perspective on this. She believes it's time to shift how we approach divorce and encourages her clients to treat it as an investment.

Holly has been practicing family law for 15 years, dealing with divorce and custody cases. She knows firsthand the emotional toll divorce can take on even the most composed people. Her approach is simple but powerful: she wants her clients to think of their divorce and litigation strategy like an investment, focusing on the potential returns of their decisions. 

"All investments have risk, but there are certain data points that indicate you're going to get a return on these efforts, and you're not going to get a return on those efforts," Holly says. "If the clients looked at divorce like an investment, everything would go much smoother."

To illustrate her point, she tells the story of a couple fighting over who would get the Keurig coffee machine in court. This example just goes to show how couples often lose sight of the bigger picture during divorce proceedings, fixating on insignificant objects and ignoring the underlying emotional issues.

“If we spend more than two minutes on something like this, they’re losing significant money,” she says. "If everybody were in their right mind thinking about divorce as an investment, nobody would talk about the Keurig coffee maker.”

Holly stresses that the core issue is not about the disputed item but rather about the emotions and personal attachments associated with it. She believes that if individuals focused on topics and assets where they could get the most significant return, it would reduce the unnecessary conflict and time wasted on trivial matters.

Contrary to popular belief, Holly states the fact that lawyers are not the ones prolonging divorce cases. Instead, it's often the clients themselves who are dragging out the process. The misconception arises from frustration with the legal system, but clients can actually actively expedite the process by adopting a focused and investment-oriented mindset.

"None of us want to drag out a case to make more money,” Holly says. “By the time we're done, we're so emotionally drained and ready to move on." 

Holly primarily serves high-end clients and appreciates that they tend to avoid unnecessary conflicts over trivial matters. However, some cases highlight the need for perspective, even among affluent individuals. She mentions a situation where a couple fought over the division of batteries from everyday household items like TV remotes and wall clocks. These instances demonstrate how emotions can cloud judgment and divert attention from what truly matters during a divorce.

So, if you're going through a divorce, it's time to shift your perspective. Treat it as an investment. Focus on what truly matters and let go of the trivial stuff. By doing so, you'll not only save time and energy but also pave the way for a smoother and more amicable divorce process.

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